2021 Burnout (Transcription)
Hi, everyone! I hope your week is going well. It is Thursday and tomorrow is Friday and hopefully, the weekend comes to you very quickly and is very fulfilling for you. And speaking of weekends today, I want to talk about what I’m going to call the “2021 burnout.”
The 2021 Burnout
So we had 2020 where we had a lot of things, postponed, a lot of things canceled, rescheduled – and a lot of it was rescheduled for 2021. And so if you’re thinking, you know, you had weddings that were canceled last year or postponed until this year, and now you have all those weddings back this year, plus anyone else who was already planning a wedding for this year. If you’re anything like me or weekends are just getting packed and you just don’t know where you have time for yourself at all. So this can cause some burnout.
Examples of Burnout
Burnout, usually people think of burnout with work, but it can also be caused by your personal life too. So for example, if you have something every single weekend where you have to commit to weddings or showers or failing parties, graduations, birthdays, whatever that might be, then you have no time for yourself to relax or get things done around the house. And it just can cause some of that burnout.
How to Relieve Burnout
So if you’re feeling that way, there are a few things that you can do to help. The first one I would say is to set a boundary for yourself and to say no to things that you’re able to say no to. I know it’s hard. If you’re anything like me, I’m a people pleaser. I don’t want to say no. I have some fear of missing out. And it’s really difficult for me to say no, but you have to think the bigger picture here. If you say yes to every single thing that you’re invited to, or that somebody asks you to do, then you’re just going to include or so you’re going to keep adding to that burnout. And so you want to make sure you can identify things that you can say no to. Something that I always tell people to do is when somebody asks you to do something, obviously you have pre-planned events like weddings, where you have to RSVP. And those might be a little more of a priority to go, but let’s say somebody asks you to go to dinner on Saturday and you already have a wedding on Friday. It’s just going to be a packed weekend and you really just don’t want to do it or you want to be able to spend time with your partner or family or yourself.
Can you Reschedule?
So what you can do is tell them – “Hey let me talk to my schedule and I’ll get back to you this, even if you know, you’re going to say, no. This can help you to feel less guilty that you’re saying no right away. And for the chances of them being kind of upset, if you say no right away, they won’t be upset. Right? Most likely there’ll be, they’ll be glad that you’re at least checking into it. And then, then you can come back and say, you know, I checked my schedule. I’m really patched this weekend. Can we reschedule for a different weekend? Simple as that. And if you can, and if you realize, you know what, I really can do this, then it gives you that opportunity to also say yes. So remember just tell them, I just want to talk about my schedule quickly and I’ll get back to you and it’ll take some of that pressure off where you have to answer right away. So that’s the first thing. Second thing is to make sure you are making time for yourself. Even if you have to schedule it in anything that you can do for self-care. If you have a packed weekend and you know that Thursday is kind of a slower day for you at work, or maybe you’re getting off early, or maybe you just have nothing after work,
Schedule that for yourself to just relax, refresh yourself before the weekend finds time for you. And if you have to put that on your calendar, put it on your calendar because that’s going to give you again, an opportunity to tell people – Hey, my schedule is booked and it’s, it’s allowing you to actually implant that in there. So you have no excuse to not do it. So making sure you’re making time for yourself. The last thing I’ll tell you is to stay organized, have some sort of calendar, whether it’s in your phone or a paper, one or an eraser or Reece board, eraser board, one, whatever that’s called. Make sure you have things organized. So you know, your schedule. So, you know, you know, if somebody asks you to do something before saying, yes, you can actually look at a schedule and see what you have that day or that weekend. So you’re not overbooking yourself. If you don’t have anything organized, you’re going to think you have time. And then that day comes and you realize you double-booked yourself in many different areas. So try to stay as organized as possible. And hopefully, that helps hopefully 2021, you know, is the year of all the postponed events that happen, you know, that are rescheduled. But then 2022 is a nice relaxing year for everyone. So everyone stays safe and I will see you next time.